Today’s blog post has been inspired by my free “Your Unique Confidence Blueprint” Video Training Series which is available here. For those who like the written format, grab a paper and pen and lets get started….
What is Confidence?
So, in its basic form, the dictionary definition of confidence is “a feeling or belief that one can have faith in or rely on someone or something”. Confidence is a feeling or a belief. 🏅
So, you can have a belief that you are confidence (I believe I am a confident coach) or a feeling of confidence in something ( I feel like I could coach you successfully). 💃
How do you know you’ve got the confidence you need?
Having confidence allows you to effortlessly move from one task to the another without being interruptions of procrastination, self-sabotage and an overwhelming feeling of failure and fear. So, how confident are you really?
Let’s do a Confidence Check-In
Your present level of confidence 👍🏻
How confident do you feel right now on a scale of one to ten? (1- not confident at all, don’t try out for things | 10 - super confidence, top of my game, loving life).
Write down your score.
Let’s go further… 🎯
Think of a time in your life when you were not confident at all or had something to do but you didn’t feel confident doing it?
Think of that moment right now. Put yourself in that moment of your life where you were lacking confidence and you weren’t at your best. 💁🏿♀️
What was the situation and how did that make you feel?
What was the situation asking from you that you were not prepared for and/or not able to provide (energy-wise/mindset wise etc).
How did it feel to be lacking in confidence?
What was your physiology like? Think body posture and bodily sensations here
How did you use your voice?
Now, give yourself a mark on the scale of confidence (just as above) between one and ten?
Shake that feeling off! Let’s not stay with that negativity. It’s time to ramp it up and think confidently 🌈
Confidence leaves clues ⭐️
Ok, let’s think of a time when you were so confident you knew exactly what you needed to do when you needed to do it and you effortlessly took steps forward, without any interruption negative thoughts or mindset blocks.
🔥 You took action.
I want you to think of that moment right now…
Maybe it was a time when you were parenting, making a career decision, in the middle of a hobby - rock climbing, horse-riding, golfing. You know, that feeling of effortless flow and ease to your life. You felt unstoppable and limitless.
What mark would you give yourself on the confidence scale now?
🦁 The Wisdom Of Confidence
I want you right now to feel and experience how confidence feels in your body versus how lacking confidence feels in your body.
As you read this, physically change your posture from unconfident to confidence.
Speak out-loud the words: “I am confident’ in a confident voice versus an unconfident voice.
What did you notice?
Do they feel polar opposites to you or are the energies of confidence and lacking confidence actually not too far apart?
What is the difference for you?
What is the difference in your personality in both situations?
How are you talking differently?
Making decisions differently?
Holding your posture?
Your eye contact?
What are the differences in your action-taking?
How are you feeling?
What are you thinking about in each scenario?
Compare your confidence scores
What was your confidence mark…
1) How confident you feel today?
2) How you felt in the past when you didn’t feel confident at all?
3. How you felt in the past when you felt unstoppable confidence?
🍦 GREAT NEWS:
With the knowledge you have now gained using your own experience, you have identified your very own unique ‘confidence blueprint’.
And that means you can start changing your confidence with this very blueprint RIGHT NOW.
What is your unique confidence blueprint?
A confidence blueprint is the map to how you specific show up when you are confident versus when you are lacking in confidence. Everyone feels and expresses confidence differently and this is your unique version of confidence.
You have just created a tangible confidence blueprint that shows you how you uniquely react (body language, eye contact, posture, language, certainty levels) when you are confident and when you are not so confident.
So, the best part is you can use this blueprint to create confidence in your life. And it’s as simple as copying your own confidence physiology!
🌼 It’s time to put it into practice.
Whenever you feel afraid to speak up, unsure about making a decision or taking a scary step forward you can refer to your findings.
Copy your confident body language example so you are able to switch on and be the very best version of yourself.
Stand or sit in the same way that connect to the feelings of confidence.
Use eye contact in the same way and effortlessly connect with others.
Speak in the same tone, intonation, pitch, volume as the confident version of you to speak up, be heard and have your viewpoint matter.
And naturally, your confident mindset will follow because you would have created the feelings, conditions and mannerisms of certainty that your brain cannot deny and will believe if continued.
🍿 Want to learn more about confidence?
Here are some resources that I’ve created for you to succeed, try out your new confidence lease of life - and if you’re ready - take your confidence to the next level:
One-to-one Confidence Coaching with me
The Magic Formula To Confidence Podcast Episode
Lessons from Home Alone Character, Kevin McCallister
What were your confidence scores? Comment below..
Have a super confident day and thanks so much for being here,
Michelle
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